Showing posts with label Health and Wealth. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Health and Wealth. Show all posts

Thursday, May 24, 2018

Why We Don't Answer The Phone

I have always hated talking on the phone. And it has nothing whatsoever to do with the person at the other end, I just find it a horrible tool for communicating with. 

I have many auto immune diseases and a rare cancer which are all caused by stress. A few years back, my doctor advised me to delete my personal fb friends and to not answer the phone to help reduce stress. I tried his advise and it helps, so here's the thing... I don't answer the phone anymore for anyone unless it's my hubby or my kids.

If you are calling for my business, leave a detailed voicemail and I will call you back at my convenience. If someone is dying or its an emergency, call my hubby's number. If you want me, send a text or email. If you do leave a voicemail, but don't say what you need, I will not return the call. It's just not that important.

Communication is a wonderful thing when done right. But I think the whole phone calling fiasco is not a good way to communicate.

So, here's some reasons why some of us (and why I personally) choose not to answer the phone.

Phone Calls Are Presumptuous 
When someone calls you, they're assuming two things:

1. They're needs are more important than your needs

2. You have the time and don't mind being interrupted

On many occasions one or both of these might be true. But more often than not, the caller comes off as being selfish - even a little insulting - to the person being called. If it's so important, just shoot me a text. Text messages are virtually guaranteed to be read within a few minutes, and they create a lot more flexibility for everyone.

Phone Calls Are Time Consuming
Do you know how much time people spend on howdy-do's everyday? The average person spends over 8 minutes a day just talking about the weather. Add in what the kids have been up to, what you're going to be doing this weekend, or whatever else, and you've just spent ten minutes talking about nothing.

We don't want to answer your phone calls, because there's no telling if doing so will take ten seconds, twenty minutes, or longer.

Phone Calls Are Inefficient
When you use social media, texting, and emails, you tell people what you think/need/want, or you give an update. That's it. If there's any follow up that needs to happen, it will be handled accordingly.

All of these messages take less than a minute to compose and send off. Phone calls, on the other hand, will nearly always take at least several minutes. Why spend several minutes on something when you can do it in a few seconds?

Phone Calls Are Annoying
How many times have you seen someone calling you and gone "Ugh" or "Who is this?" If we're being honest, phone calls are annoying! Most often, the initial reaction to a call will almost always be negative.

Phone Calls Are Stressful
One call isn't a big deal, but the shear number of phone calls that a lot of people get every day is enough to drown someone! Phone calls can be a large stressor day-to-day (-especially to someone with health issues like myself.) Every time that phone rings - at work or at home. You have no control over your day, or your life for that matter. People would rather text or email because they can do it entirely on their own time, and remove that mountain of stress in the process.

Phone Calls Are Unnecessary
You call someone to communicate quickly, right? There are literally hundreds of other ways and apps through which you can communicate quickly - and do it faster. How many ways do we need to do the same thing?

Other than being able to say more than is needed, there aren't many advantages to phone calls.

Phone Calls Aren't Private
How many times have you been on a call and had to either whisper, move to a different room, or ask the person to hang up and text you because you didn't want anyone listening to your conversation?

Nobody enjoys that kind of anxiety, of feeling like someone who shouldn't be involved is listening to every word you say. (I remember as a kid, my mom would always take the phone to her room and shut the door so we couldn', hear. I hated it and try to not do that with my kids.)

Or how many times are you in line at the grocery store and the lady in front of you talking about her job or how she getting her nails done, or what she's cooking for supper.... sorry, but I really don't care and I definitely don't want to hear all the personal details of your life. That's just rude.

Phone Calls Aren't Personal
If you want to reach your friends, you text. To schedule a meeting with an acquaintance, you email. If you're a salesman trying to hit his numbers, you call. 
Simple as that.

Phone Calls Are Controlling Our Freedom
When someone calls you, it disrupts whatever you're working on. Phone calls take control away from you and give it to the person calling. If you accept the call, you are accepting the caller's control over you and your schedule. 

So when we don't answer your call, it's not because we are trying to be rude. It's because we want to keep things under their control, and make the most out of our day.

Long story short.... Phone Calls Are Disruptive
At no point in your day is taking a phone call not disruptive to whatever else you're working on. Phone calls are rude, intrusive, awkward, unnatural, interruptive, distracting, disruptive, and completely throw off your groove. 

Text beats that. I rarely answer my phone, often forget to check voicemail, and can take a shockingly long time to return phone calls.

The telephone has a very rude tendency to interrupt people. When I was growing up, the rule was, Don’t call anyone after 10 p.m. Now the rule is, Don’t call anyone. Ever.

Don't call me. I won't call you.

Monday, May 7, 2018

How Shaklee's YOUTH Healed My Skin

Like nearly every growing teen, I have struggled with acne. Although mine is thankfully not severe, it hit a definite peak between the ages of 14 and 16. I had tried different facial cleansers, exfoliators, moisturizers, way too many questionable DIY concoctions (which did more harm than good), and even a medicated cream, to try to tame this bothersome side affect of puberty.

Every night I would exfoliate like crazy, apply at least 3 different products, and every morning I would wake up with the same lack of results. None of them seemed to work, which, of course, drove me to use them even more religiously… 
At that time, it seemed like a wise solution.

It wasn’t.

As my acne worsened, my confidence dwindled, but I eventually discovered the life-changing power of liquid foundation and concealer… only, I lacked the knowhow to use it, and the end result made me look like a cake-faced oompa loompa...

from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory

Not the best look.

All I was doing, was overwhelming my skin with tons of different ingredients and harsh chemicals, exfoliating my face off, and then clogging my pores even more with the layers of makeup I’d use to try and cover it. It’s a vicious cycle that a lot of people get sucked into. By slathering on layers of acne products and exfoliating daily, they think they’re doing all they can to help their skin, when in reality, they’re just irritating the heck out of it.

Well, I’ve learned my lesson, and my skin and I have finally made amends, thanks to a brand new skincare line by Shaklee!

Ain't it pretty?

After hearing about YOUTH®, I immediately wanted to try it. I knew it was not created specifically to treat acne, but I was sick of wasting time with bad home remedies and overrated facial products, and seeing no results. Shaklee’s vitamins had helped me enormously as a child, while I was sick with stage 3 kidney disease, and almost getting put on dialysis (you can read the full story HERE). I knew Shaklee worked, and I was eager to see how well YOUTH® would too.

I was not disappointed!

I didn't realize how much scarring I had until I compared the pictures. My scars are completely gone now! Due to hormones, my acne hasn't dissapeared totally, but I've learned to accept it. I will usually breakout at that time of the month, but it is so, so much better than it used to be! I'll get a few spots, but they're always gone within a couple days. And, acne aside, you can see how much firmer and healthier my skin is now! I was not expecting such a difference!

The BB Cream, Mineral Moisturizer, and Night Cream in “light” (it also comes in “rich”, which is great for the winter months), are all very smooth and weightless. I forget I’m wearing them most days.

I think the cleanser, toner, and night cream are what helped me the most. The cleanser and toner have natural, gentle exfoliants, of green algae and muscadine grape exracts, which leave your skin soft, clean, and revived. And I love waking up to firm, hydrated skin thanks to their night cream!

Another super great product Shaklee has is their Acne Clarifying Complex. ↓

Acne Clarifying Complex
If I haven’t sold you on YOUTH® yet, this is nearly just as good. I’ve used it morning and night for years, and it has helped out so much in reducing redness, swelling, and speeding up my skin’s natural healing process. It’s affordable, and lasts me a really long time! I’ve bought 2 tubes in the last 4 years, and that’s only because I lost one during vacation earlier this year… never doing that again –I was without it for over a week!

Having acne prone skin is hard, and it really does mess with your confidence. I can't tell you how many times I used to look in the mirror and tell myself horrible things, like "no one would ever want someone like you," "you're pathetic", "you're ugly"... things I would never dream of telling another person, ever. But we so often allow apearances to rule over our better judgement and the true worth of somebody, especially ourselves. My skin is clearer, yes, and some of you (like my parents) might think that it never was that bad to begin with. Compared to a lot of people, it wasn't. You're right. But, regardless, I felt degraded because of it. I'd watched too many ads, flipped through too many magazines, and scrolled through too many Instagram feeds... All those girls seemed perfect: they didn't have acne spots on their faces, or eyebags, or freckles, and if they did, who was I to know? "It must be so great to go without makeup and still look that beautiful," I'd tell myself.

 But I've learned that with or without acne, I'm still the same person. About halfway through my journey with YOUTH®, I stopped wearing as much makeup. At first, it felt empowering. "This is me, just how I am." I was glad my face was so much better, and I liked feeling more confident in my own skin. But, I still had dark circles under my eyes, I still had random, undefined freckles, and skin imperfections. I still looked the same and acted the same. I was still me. So, what did clearing my acne really change?

My way of thinking.

I've learned to let go of all those negative beliefs I used to tell myself, because, really, it's still me I'm looking at in the mirror. Makeup-free days are relaxing, and a full-face day makes me feel 'put together'. I've accepted that I will never look like a model, I will never have babydoll skin... but anytime I apply makeup now, I do it because I want to, not because I feel like I have to. Because I have learned that I am so much more than my appearance, no matter how good or bad it is. 

Thank you, Shaklee, for helping me realize that.

written by Faith Kindred

Tuesday, May 1, 2018

An Open Letter To My Customers

Dear Customer,

As the owner of SRKindred and an Independant Shaklee Distributor, I want to personally thank you for your continued loyalty to our products and your support of our family business.

Shaklee is so much more than just a nutritional, product, company. Our mission is to help people everywhere enjoy beautiful, healthy, fulfilling lives through our exceptional, naturally based products, a fun and rewarding business opportunity, and a culture of family, service, and gratitude. 

Do you realize your support means much more than simply buying vitamins, skincare, weightloss, cleaning products, or Basic H?

You’re supporting small business. You’re supporting our family. You make it possible for me to stay home with my children.

According to Entrepreneur magazine, there are over 25 million small businesses in the U.S., and Forbes reports that 52% of small businesses are home-based. 

We are blessed by your continued patronage…This is life changing for our family.

You’re supporting programs that serve people and communities like yours.

For example, Shaklee Cares has given millions of dollars in cash and product donations, along with thousands of hours of volunteer time have been given to help Shaklee Family Members and their communities rebuild in the aftermath of natural disaster.
 You helped make that possible. Thank you.

Shaklee makes so much possible…
and you are what makes Shaklee possible! 

Thank you for helping us change the lives of so many people… and for supporting our family.

- Rhoda Kindred
Shaklee Independent Distributor

Monday, April 30, 2018

35 Things I've Learned In 35 Years

Today, I turn 35 years old. I'm not one to make a big deal about my birthday, but, the older I get, the more I reflect on my life. So, I thought I’d share some lessons I’ve learned...

1. Say you’re sorry. Being too proud to apologize is never worth it. Open your heart. Life is amazing if you don’t shut it out. Be willing to take the wounds that come with an open heart, but know when to walk away. Know who your people are and you will experience the best of life.

2. Possessions are worse than worthless — they’re harmful. They add no value to your life, and cost you everything. Not just the money required to buy them, but the time and money spent shopping for them, maintaining them, worrying about them, insuring them, fixing them, etc. Mindless shopping is unhealthy, and useless. Live a clutter free life.

3. Slow down. Rushing is rarely worth it. Life is better enjoyed at a leisurely pace. Savor life. Not just the usual pleasures, but everything and everyone. The stranger you meet on the bus. The sunshine that hits your face as you walk. The quiet of the morning. Time with a loved one. Time alone. Your breath as you meditate.

4. All you need to be happy is within you. Many people seek happiness in food, drugs, alcohol, shopping, partying, sex … because they’re seeking external happiness. They don’t realize the tools for happiness aren’t outside them. They’re right inside you: mindfulness, gratitude, compassion, thoughtfulness, the ability to create and do something meaningful, even in a small way. You need no one else to make you happy or validate you. You don’t need a boss to tell you that you’re great at what you do. You don’t need a boyfriend/girlfriend to tell you that you’re lovable. You don’t need your friends’ approval. Know who you are.

5. The moment is all there is. All our worries and plans about the future, all our replaying of things that happened in the past — it’s all in our heads, and it just distracts us from fully living right now. Let go of all that, and just focus on what you’re doing, right at this moment. In this way, any activity can be meditation. Make a habit asking yourself ‘why’ you do things and make sure you’re happy with the answers. If not, rethink your choices.

6. Never stop learning. If you just learn something a little a day, it will add up over time immensely. Teachers are everywhere, if you’re willing to learn. You’re never too old to learn something new or to dream a bit bigger.

7. Live well below your means. Don’t go into debt. That includes credit card debt, student debt, home debt, personal loans, auto loans. We think they’re necessary but they’re not, at all. They cause more headaches than they’re worth, they can ruin lives, and they cost us way more than we get. Debt is serious business. Spend 30% less than you earn. Don’t spend it if you don’t have it. Learn to go without, and be happy with less.

8. You are good enough — learn that and you won’t be afraid of new things, won’t be afraid to fail, won’t need the approval of others. You’ll be pre-approved — by yourself. I'm not cool, and I’m cool with that. I wasted a lot of energy when I was younger worrying about being cool. Just be yourself.

9. The only kind of marketing you need is an amazing product. If it’s good, people will spread the word for you. All other kind of marketing is disingenuous. Thank you Shaklee!

10. Start now. Whatever it is, you will always wish you started earlier. “Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.” – Earl Nightingale

11. Quality over quantity. Apply this to your closet, your friends and your groceries. On beauty and style: work with what you have. It’s far easier to work with what nature gave you than to try and change what you don’t like about yourself.

12. If you find yourself swimming with all the other fish, go the other way. They don’t know where they’re going either. If you compromise on your core values you’ll never feel true to yourself.

13. You will miss a ton, but that’s OK. We’re so caught up in trying to do everything, experience all the essential things, not miss out on anything important … that we forget the simple fact that we cannot experience everything. The secret is: life is better when we don’t try to do everything. Learn to enjoy the slice of life you experience, and life turns out to be wonderful.

14. Mistakes are the best way to learn. Don’t be afraid to make them. They are some of the best teachers. Instead, learn to be OK with mistakes, and learn to learn from them, and learn to shrug them off so they don’t affect your profound confidence in who you are.

15. Failures are the stepping stones to success. Without failure, we’ll never learn how to succeed. So try to fail, instead of trying to avoid failure through fear. Define your own version of success.

16. Rest is more important than you think. People work too hard, forget to rest, and then begin to hate their jobs. People try to do too much because they don’t know that rest is where their body gets stronger, after the stress.

17. There are few joys that equal a good book, a good walk, a good hug, or a good friend. All are free. 

18. Fitness doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a long process, a learning process, something that happens in little bits over a long period. It’s a great journey. Fitness looks different for different people. Find your own kind of fitness.

19. The destination is just a tiny slice of the journey. We’re so worried about goals, about our future, that we miss all the great things along the way. If you’re fixated on the goal, on the end, you won’t enjoy it when you get there. You’ll be worried about the next goal, the next destination. Goals aren’t as important as we think. Try working without them for a week. Turns out, you can do amazing things without goals. You’re less stressed without goals, and you’re freer to choose paths you couldn’t have foreseen without them.

20. A good walk cures most problems. Want to lose weight and get fit? Walk. Want to enjoy life but spend less? Walk. Want to cure stress and clear your head? Walk. Want to meditate and live in the moment? Walk. Having trouble with a life or work problem? Walk, and your head gets clear.

21. Let go of expectations. When you have expectations of something — a person, an experience, a vacation, a job, a book — you put it in a predetermined box that has little to do with reality. Instead, try to experience reality as it is, appreciate it for what it is, and be happy that it is.

22. Give with no expectation of getting something in return, and it becomes a purer, more beautiful act.

23. Change is the one constant in life. You will suffer by trying to hold onto things. Learn to let go, and learn to have a flexible mind. Don’t get stuck in what you’re comfortable with, don’t shut out what’s new and uncomfortable. The hardest part of changing your life is finding the courage to make the decision.

24. Gratitude is one of the best ways to find contentment. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, be grateful for the amazing gifts you’ve been given: of loved ones and simple pleasures, of health and sight and the gift of music and books, of nature and beauty and the ability to create, and everything in between. Be grateful every day.

25. Create. The world is full of distractions, but very few are as important as creating. In my life, creating is one of the few things that has given me meaning. When it’s time to work, clear away all else and create. You don’t have to be an ‘artist’ to create art. You don’t have to be a ‘runner’ to run. You don’t have to be a ‘writer’ to write. Forget labels and do what you love. 

26. Get some perspective. Usually when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. In the larger picture, this one problem means almost nothing. This fight we’re having with someone else — it’s over something that matters little. Let it go, and move on.

27. Don’t sit too much. It kills you. Move, dance, run, play. Have fun being active. Sure, there’s lots of fun to be had online, and in eating sweets and fried food, and in watching TV and movies and playing video games. But going outside and playing with friends, tossing a ball around, swimming, climbing something, challenging each other … that’s even more fun. And it leads to a healthy life, healthy heart, more focused and energetic mind.

28. Use the magic of compound interest. Invest early, and it will grow as if by alchemy. Live on little, don’t get into debt, save all you can, and invest it in mutual funds. Watch your money grow.

29. All we are taught in schools, and all we see in the media (news, films, books, magazines, Internet) has a worldview that we’re meant to conform to. Figure out what that worldview is, and question it. More often than nought, you'll find the worldview is wrong.

30. Learn compassion. Learn the art of empathy. Too often we judge people on too little information. We must try to understand what they do instead, put ourselves in their shoes, start with the assumption that what others do has a good reason if we understand what they’re going through. Life becomes much better if you learn this art. You can disagree with someone’s opinions, but still love and respect them as a person. Agree to disagree.

31. Do less. Most people try to do too much. They fill life with checklists, and try to crank out tasks as if they were widget machines. Throw out the checklists and just figure out what’s important. Stop being a machine and focus on what you love. Do it lovingly. 

32. No one knows what they’re doing as parents. We’re all faking it, and hoping we’re getting it right. Some people obsess about the details, and miss out on the fun. I just try not to mess them up too much, to show them they’re loved, to enjoy the moments I can with them, to show them life is fun, and stay out of the way of them becoming the amazing people they’re going to become. That they already are.

33. Love comes in many flavors. I love my husband and children, completely and more than I can ever fully understand. I love them each in a different way, and know that each is perfect in his or her own way. Don't be afraid to love in your own way.

34. Life is exceedingly brief. You might feel like there’s a huge mass of time ahead of you, but it passes much faster than you think. Your kids grow up so fast you get whiplash. You get gray hairs before you’re done getting your bearings on life. Appreciate every damn moment.

35. Never be ashamed of who you are and how you choose to live your life. Don't apologize for how you live. Learn to say no. Follow your fear and leave your comfort zone.

*this blog post was adapted and edited from Zen Habits to reflect my own thoughts and ideas.

Thursday, April 19, 2018

Lessons Learned With Weight Loss

I have learned that it is okay to ask for help and guidance. 

To say no and not feel guilty. 

That weight loss also sheds unwanted baggage.

That failure is not an option. 

That I am worthy of love.

That I am important. My life and my wants are important. 

That whatever is worth having, is worth fighting for, and is hard.

That portion control and protein matter more than most people think.

Simply to be true to myself and to those that I love.

I have learned who my people are.

That being unique and different is one of my best qualities - in a world where people zag, I zig.

That good things can happen at any time, on any day.

And finally, I have learned to be Rhoda. To be the best version of myself, with the man that I love, my children, and my God. To be okay with who I am.

Read about my weight loss journey here: 

Getting Healthy Part 1

Getting Healthy Part 2

I am currently down 75 lb. since October 2016 and wear a size 14 jeans, and med. tops, but I'm most happy to actually live life again!

Wednesday, March 28, 2018

What Introverts Want You To Know.... and it might not be what you think

For those of you who don't know, my daughter, Faith is an amazing writer and is extremely gifted at putting her words down on paper.... so she's guest posting on the blog today. 

I love taking personality tests and seeing how people are different by their own types. I am an introvert and extrovert myself and agree completely with 1 and 2. However, number 5 is completely not me... isn't it interesting how God made each of us uniquely different?

Here's what Faith has to say about what introverts want us to know....

As an introvert myself, I really value my alone time. It’s a time to unwind, be myself, and do stupid things without having to worry if anyone’s watching. It’s my “happy place”, my recharge, and I depend on it to get me through life’s hectic situations. Sure, I like spending time with friends, going shopping, and eating out, but honestly, I like my solitude even more. When I try to explain this to certain people, they often don’t get it. They view me as antisocial, stuck up, or just plain boring. But can I just tell you that this is simply not the case? I can have fun, I can definitely be bossy, and you’d better believe I can talk your ear off if I feel like it.  
So what’s the deal then? Below, are a few things to hopefully bring a better understanding to why some of us introverts do what we do. Like, why are we so quiet in group conversations? (and no, it’s not always because we’re shy…)  

1. We hate small talk. Discussions like “How are you doing?”, “Any plans for the weekend?”, and “Awful weather we’ve been having, huh…”, are all just empty questions, to me at least. To be put simply, who cares? Most of the time, the only reason we talk about those things is solely for the sake of small talk. Do you really want to know how I’m doing, or are you asking me just to ask? How am I even supposed to answer that question? “Good” or “Okay” is just… not a satisfying answer. I know it’s only polite, but if I’m going to talk about something, I want it to be worth talking about. Not to mention, small talk can be incredibly awkward when you’ve ran out of things to say. Bottom line: engaging in mindless chitchat has never appealed to me, nor will it ever. So here’s a motto I live by: “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. 
2. People annoy us. Now, I like people, really I do… just in small doses. We were designed to be social creatures, after all. Without each other, life would get pretty lonely. With that said, however; people are just annoying. They gossip, lie, nag, and brag, among a countless list of other things. For introverts, sometimes we just need a break from all the chaos, and a nice, calming retreat back into our little caves of serenity. Which brings me to my next point:  
3. We need our solitude. In fact, a lack of it can affect us emotionally and even physically. As deep thinkers and detail-orienteers, we’re very prone to stress. Something as simple as going to a holiday party can wear us out, leaving us in need of a good recharge the next day. It’s not that we don’t like them every now and then, it’s that we can’t handle the stress, or rather, the excitement of them. Keep in mind, though, that while this is all true, I, as well as the majority of people, still love having a good time. It just may be slightly different from your idea of a good time. Many of us are perfectly content with a mug of tea and a good book, while others prefer a light jog, or even a night out with a few friends… fun is whatever you choose to make of it. Don’t assume that we’re all depressed psychopaths living under a rock just because we don’t always show up to parties.  
4. Skepticism. Now, we’ve probably all been here… we meet this cool person, get pretty close -we’ve broken that secret barrier, shared a few embarrassing stories -mutual trust is in full bloom, at least where we’re concerned. And then, it happens. We begin to talk a little less, weekly coffee dates become once-a-month life updates… before we know it, we’re not even friends anymore. We think to ourselves, “Why did I waste all that time?” Relationships take work, commitment, and sacrifice, in both small and big ways. When one person doesn’t carry their weight, the whole thing can fall apart faster than we even realize. Worse, there can be betrayal, which can lead to much more than just a lousy friendship length. So when we meet someone new, or begin a new relationship, a common, very legitimate thought that comes to our mind is along the lines of “What do they want from me?” Do they just want another addition to their social circle, or are they genuinely interested in me? It’s easier and much less stressful for us to just not find out. Which is one of the reasons why it’s so hard for us to make friends, or be sociable in general. We don’t know where it will lead, and we don’t want to go through potential embarrassment or hurt again.  
5. We hightail from conflict for as long as we can. This really goes hand-in-hand with number 3. Disagreements, arguments, quarrels, call them what you will -they’re all forms of conflict and we hate them. We’d rather keep quiet about our opinions, than open our mouths to oppose another person. That just creates friction, and we can’t do friction, period. It’s uncomfortable and, at often times, not worth it. Do we still have our boiling points? Oh-ho, yes. Unlike extroverts, who like to let everyone know exactly how they’re feeling straight away, we try to bottle things up for as long as we can. When it comes to anger, I like to think of extroverts’ as a constant flame of fire, whereas introverts’, a firecracker that comes out of nowhere and slaps you across the face. As soon as we’ve reached our limit, believe me, you’ll know.  
6. Being an introvert is extremely freeing. Sure, you still have your job, your family, your bills, and laundry to keep on top of, but you have so much more time to yourself. So why wouldn’t we want to stay in our little circles? This is judgment-free zone right here. Want to learn yoga? Go for it. Want to eat a whole bag of chocolates? No one’s stopping you. Want to stay in bed and watch Netflix all day? Me too, let’s do it. Just as long as we remember not to overdo it… which is very easy to do. If I’m not careful, sometimes my “solitude attitude” can take over, and I get stuck in a rut of not saying anything unless it’s necessary, and staying in my room all day. Although solitude brings me comfort, it’s not always what I need. Like all good things in life, too much of one can be a bad thing. 

So there you have it. Tell me what you think in the comments, and feel free to share any other introvert quirks you might think of! If something you read resonates with you or someone you know, be sure to share this post.

Monday, January 22, 2018

How To Make Your Bedroom A Beautiful Haven of Rest...

Here's our bedroom before we started decluttering.... I never thought of us as being packrats or having a cluttered home until we started going through our house room by room and getting rid of stuff....

Here's some ideas to help you unclutter your bedroom and make it a beautiful, relaxing space.

Closets - clean them out! Get rid of all the clothes, shoes, purses, and anything else you don't use reguarly or items that you have more than enough.

Get rid of all the fake plants, they only collect dust.

Wall decor - less is more! For example: In our room we have four wall decor items. One is a picure fame with a wedding photo, an old window frame from my Grandpa that I decorated, an old windmill blade and my jewelry holder which I made. We do have a mirror hanging on the back of the of the bedroom door.

Decor items, shelves, display cabinets - get rid of at least 75% of the stuff in your room. If you get rid of the extra and just keep a few items you love, those few items will be much more meaningful to you. I love finding antique items to use in my decor.... this oil can came from my dad's shop when I was a kid.

Fresh flowers are a great way to add to your decor... And I got this little type 3/type 2 elephant at a yard sale a few years ago.... I love this little elephant because it reminds me of myself.... all crazy, unpredictable, adventurous, and unique!

Paint the walls, the doors, and the trim. Get new hardware for the doors. Painting is the cheapest way to update a room. Find a color that you like or that looks good in your home. For example: I'm not really a huge fan of purple but this purple hue goes perfectly with our interior gray walls throughout our house, and I find it cool and calming in our bedroom - especially compared to the previous pink coral/salmon colored walls.

Hubby painting.... 

Dressers - get rid of any extra dressers you have. You only need one dresser for two people.

Dresser before... the attached mirror makes it look dated and the items make it look cluttered.

Below is the same exact dresser with the same decor plus one extra piece.... notice how much cleaner and clutter free it looks?

Ps. My husband and I share this one dresser.

This is the true actual color of the walls in our bedroom.

Curtains - open them up! Take down the ugly, old, dusty ones and clean them or buy new, clean, fresh curtains. Place curtain rods 1/2 way between the ceiling and the window trim (usually 6-8" above the window) - it makes your room look more open and your windows larger.

Make sure you have a nice comfy place to sit, talk, and relax. (Chair from Ikea). 

While on the subject keep your room clean and your bed made. We keep our bedroom as a getaway for the hubby and I.

Get rid of all the stuffy pillows, dated bed skirts, and old blankets. I used to have 7 throw pillows in my bedroom - while I will always love throw pillows, 2 or 3 is now my max.

Under your bed is not for storage.... if you have storage under your bed - you have too much stuff!

It amazes me just how much junk we used to stuff into our bedroom. We had collectible cars, tractors, magazines, sewing stuff, old picture frames, too big clothes, too small clothes, childhood toys, old cell phones, fake plants, gift wrap, suitcases, etc.

Never again! I love having a calm, clean, relaxing bedroom!

Monday, January 1, 2018

New Year Resolutions

Stop trying to be something your not!

This could be considered useful advise for just about anything.... but, today I'm talking about exercising.

This time of year you hear of people making New Year Resolutions and the top one for many people is to lose weight. Now I'm not saying weight loss or exercising is bad. What I'm saying is if you have to be something that's not true to who you are to achieve it.... it's simple not worth it!

I'm all for losing weight (You can see my getting healthy story here), exercising, eating healthy, becoming fit, being happy,and changing into the person who you want to be... just don't go about it the wrong way!

Let me explain what I mean....

I have always been short (5ft.). As a kid, I hated walking with my mom and sister, because they could walk circles around me... (short legs don't go fast). When I was 12, I was ran over with a produce wagon and have had many leg problems since. I have struggled with being overweight my whole life. I have owned and tried weight machines, treadmill, elliptical, swimming, and everything else. My doctor told me I should never do any exercising other than in water, as it is just too hard on my bad leg....

But here's the thing. I always let people talk me into trying to work out - outside of water, and it causes me to become something I'm not. I do NOT want to be a fitness guru.... working out makes me become angry, sore, tired, and an all around bad person to be with....

Now, if you genually enjoy having a workout routine and get a high from the burn, by all means go ahead and do so. Now through Jan 31, 2018 save $50 with a Shaklee 180 Starter Kit... it will put you on the fast track to becoming fit and healthy!

But for me - I get my high and enjoyment from taking walks, going on bike rides, and exploring with my family... that's how I'm getting in my exercise, and enjoying being me, and staying true to myself at the same time.

Here's to a happy, healthy, New Year and to having good new year resolutions!


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