Saturday, August 17, 2019

How Do You Display Your Jewelry?

I made my first jewelry holder back in 2011 and ever since then, I have displayed my jewelry on our bedroom wall.

My ideas, wants, decor and jewelry has changed a bit since back then.... (which is probably a good thing!)


In 2014 I made another jewelry holder, which was the perfect size and looks great on the wall. I still use it today. However, I have always kept my bracelets in my jewelry box tucked away in my closet. 

I love wearing bracelets, but since they weren't out where I could see them or easily accessible, most days I never wore them...

Well, alot has happened in the years since then... we have minimized our life style, getting rid of a bedroom dresser, mirror, and cairo cabinet, and cleaned out our bedroom closets.... oh, and a new chair and fresh coat of paint made it look like a completely different room. Except, the crazy little jewelry box was still sitting in my closet, driving me crazy, most of the bracelets unworn.

So, I decided to finally time to do something about it....


With the help of a dowel rod, and 2 hooks, my bracelets are now on display front and center, where I see them every morning as I'm getting dressed.

I probably ought to paint the dowel rod (and probably will sometime), but for now, I'm just happy to have it easily accessible and on display...

..... and I could finally get rid of that jewelry box that has hid out in my closet for the last 14+ years!


I love having my jewelry on display where I can see and use it daily.... And yes, I'm still trying to minimize my clothing, shoes and jewelry.

Do you display your jewelry or do you keep it tucked away, out of sight? 

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Wednesday, August 7, 2019

1st Day of School



Another year school has begun. And just like all the other moms, I take 1st day of school year pictures.

But here's the thing.... it's always sad for me. Not in the "Aw, they're growing up" or "I can't believe how fast time goes" or "I can't believe my kids are in (insert grade level) grade" kind of way.  But rather I'm sad, because to me it's a reminder that although I should have a seventh and fourth grader, after all these years, I still have a kindergarten and first grader. I'm sad because their future (especially my sons) looks so different than other kids. 

The older they get the harder it is to be excited about school or to post pictures about it or talk about it because I know that my kids are not normal.

When other moms are posting about how good their child's doing in school or how excited their son or daughter is to be going on to the next grade, or how many friends they have in their class, I have to hide my hurt because it's not that way for me.

My kids don't get to advance to other grade levels like other kids, they both struggle with reading, they're singled out and bullied because they go to the special ed rooms, they are both the biggest kids in all their classes and get made fun of because of their size regularly. 

My son has been at a kindergarten level for over seven years, but even though he's had all those years of trying to learn to read, different curriculum, and different people helping him, he still can't pass the first grade reading level.

Today, while all the other kids were sitting with the friends they've made at school and running into the gym excited to be back, and see and talk and sit with all their friends, I spent the time with my kids talking to the special ed teacher, making sure my son knew where to go and what to do, and explaining how his day would go. And by the time he left with his special ed teacher, my daughters class had already left without her... not one single kid or teacher offered to say hello or help her, so I had to walk her to class by herself and watch as all the kids turned to look at her when she entered the room. It was all she could do to hold back the tears, (she is usually a happy go lucky kid, but knowing she isn't like the other kids is hard for her) and it broke my momma heart.

Most days, while other moms drop off their 12 and 9 yr olds,  and go on about their day, my mornings are a bit different. I have to talk to the speech therapist, the special ed teacher, special ed coordinator, special ed aid, the resource room teacher, the counselor, my sons reading specalist, 2 different occupational therapists, and both of the homeroom teachers. We have to make a plan to alter their schedules, digital learning, related arts, library time, and my sons science class, but yet work around every one's schedule.

 My kids both have IEP's, and although they are different, (my son is off diploma track), pretty much everything about their school day has to be altered to help them, but in the end, makes them and their differences stand out even more.

So yes, today starts a new school year and I'll post their pictures on social media, and people will say good luck, they look cute, have a good year, etc., but deep down I'm hurting because it's not normal, but it's life.


My kids, my life, and even me myself are not normal.... but as the bulletin board in my sons self contained special ed class room says...... we all fit in!


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Friday, August 2, 2019

Before You Date My Daughter....




I have an 18 yr old daughter... she is beautiful inside and out, has a heart for people, thinks the best of everyone, and is talented. She can write, paint, sketch, play four musical instruments, has a beautiful voice, and loves animals. She is taking Graphic Design in college, and has a full time job. She is a soft, kind hearted young lady. And while she still lives at home and has a dad to look out for her, she's not all peaches and cream. She can hold her own pretty well, and has her own ideas, standards and reasoning.

But, when it comes to dating, she has seen some of the worst brought out in guys...

In the last few years, she has had six guys interested. Some have asked her to date, some have wanted to do everything but date. One lied to both her and her dad, one was 11+ yrs older than her and lived in another country, one didn't have his licence and wanted her to drive out of state to his house, one told her he needed space from her family before they even went on a date, one wanted to send her nude pictures, and one sent her good morning texts from his bed... They have all caused drama. (And most of them were raised in good Christian homes, and should have known better). 

As of today, she still has never been on a date. Not because she's too good for them, but rather, she has more respect for herself then they seem to have or show.

So, here are some suggestions if you want to date our daughter.... (not necessarily have to's, but it sure would be nice to have her be pursued by a trustworthy,  respectable, and caring young man...)

Have enough respect to ask her dad....
He isn't really looking forward to talking with you either, as it's his 'little' girl, but he needs to talk to you. Its ok if you're nervous or fumble your words, he was in your place once too... Don't send him a text. Call him and set up a time to meet and have a conversation face to face.

Tell him what is it about our daughter that made you want to spend time with her. What part does God have in your life? What do you do for fun? Where do you work? Where you see yourself in a couple of years?

What are you two going to be doing for the date? 
 Tell him where/what you have in mind, and set a time to arrive back home. 11:30 means 11:30. No exceptions. Give him your phone number. 

(PS. And seriously, don't text our daughter and ask her for her dads number or tell her you want to date her before you ask her dad. That's just cheating the system. Be a man and do your own homework.)

Make a formal, in-person invitation. Call her if you have to, but take the highest form of communication. Don’t be a coward and text it. Don’t post it on Facebook. Ask privately. Ask clearly. ....And by the way, don’t just ask her to “hang out" -that's not a date.

Make her feel special. Don't ask her to drive to meet you somewhere. You need to drive and pick her up. Bring her some flowers, or a long stemmed rose, or don't. Meet her parents. Show some class.

Go somewhere. Do something. Take the initiative. Don’t ask, “What do you want to do?” Even if she doesn’t love what you decide to do, she will love the fact that you showed initiative and planning.

Always, always open the door for her... the car door, the door to the building... hold it open and let her go first. (My husband still opens the car door for me after 15 years together!)

You should pay. Even if she has more money. Even if she insists. It doesn’t have to be expensive. Part of your calling as a man is to provide. Provide what you have, not what you don’t have. Don't ever bring up the subject of how much money you do or don't have for the date. If you want to date her, she is worth it.

Ask her questions about herself. Make her feel special by getting to know her. What made her the person she is now? Where does she hope to be in a few years? Share about yourself, too.

Spend time with both sets of parents. We want the best for both of you. You aren't just getting to know our daughter, your getting to know our whole family. If you’re avoiding us, you're hiding something.

Control the public displays of affection and in private too. Have standards. Have boundaries. Don't make it physical. Take your time and enjoy the little things. Deliberately seek to socialize together or serve together in groups. Limit alone time and keep accountable to someone for the time you are together. The future will take care of itself.

Show my daughter the respect she deserves. She’s been taught to treat you the same. Be willing to watch out for our daughter’s well being. Be responsible. Look out for her best interests. Protect her. Always keep the door open.

 Have some self-control and modesty toward her. If you have feelings of affection or attraction, take some time before you reveal them. Don't tell her you “like” her and put the ball in her court, if you've only been on a few dates. When you do tell... do it in a tactful and meaningful way.

 Don’t go back and give the play-by-play to your friends. Have some self-control. This isn’t junior high school. (But as the mom of said daughter... I'm dying over here wanting to know what you thought about the date!!! Haha!)

Date with Jesus, not Cupid in mind. Ask her out for coffee to get to know her. Dating is supposed to be fun! A first date should give her butterfly's.... it should be exciting and she should simply be treated with respect and admiration... 

But at the end of the day, don't string her along if all you're wanting is a good time. Dating is about getting to know each other.... can you see yourself marrying her? Can you both serve God together? Have fun, but date with a purpose.

"A real man, the kind of man a woman wants to give her life to, is one who will respect her dignity, who will honor her like the valuable treasures she is. A real man will cherish and care for that precious prize forever."

Thursday, July 25, 2019

Best Ikea Finds


The new Ikea catalog came in the mail today.... and I found a few items that I'd love to have....

I visited my first Ikea store in 2015. Hubby took me there on a date. It was three hours away from where we live. I fell in love! So, I was ecstatic when I learned that an Ikea store was going in one hour away from our house, which I happen to drive right by every couple months.

I get it.... sometimes Ikea is over rated. Sometimes, I get tired of seeing bloggers homes that just scream Ikea.... like seriously - in my opinion, a house needs some old worn bits of history thrown in to make it look good.

The last couple times I went, I was actually disappointed in the quality of service and the cost of the items, and I told hubby that I need a break from ikea for awhile....

But, with that said.... here is a few IKEA items that I absolutely love!


First up... the BESTA storage cabinet. We went from having a filing cabinet, 2 dressers, a large desk, and a table in the office to just the Besta unit and a small library table! It holds everything for our home business and our personal papers, etc. And it has room to hold the printer and my chromebook and all our electronic stuff!

I love the simplicity of this cabinet!


Inside the besta cabinet, I have all sizes of the IKEA TJENA Foldable Storage Boxs with Lids in both black and white to help organize things. I put labels on them and they keep everything organized neatly.


This SOCKERART Vase is beautiful and versital! I love filling it full of flowers for my table! However, they just came out with a brand new dark blue color that I am completely envious of!


My POANG chair! We replaced an old, squeaky, glider rocker in our bedroom with the IKEA poang chair a couple years ago and my hubby and I both love it! We now have three of these poang chairs. (*my only complaint is that the ikea chairs sit low to the floor.)


The KALAS plastic bowls, cups and plates. My kids are getting older, so I'll probly soon get rid of all the plastic plates, bowls and cups, as I'd much rather have glass in my kitchen, but these are the perfect size for ice cream and for kids! And.... the lids from pringles chips fit perfectly on the IKEA Kalas cups.
The MALA painting paper for the youngest to paint/draw on. Hubby made a artist station for her in the girls 'she shed' and it works great!

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With that being said, here is a list of #IKEA products that I want, but I just can't quite bring myself to purchase yet....


If I had more room and a designated use for it, I'd get this RÅSKOG Utility cart....


ÖRTFYLLD Spice jar, and ÖRTFYLLD 3-piece oil & vinegar set.


I'm still trying to decide if I want to purchase the new 
IKEA 365+ containers with the bamboo lids or the Better Homes and Gardens Flip Tite food storage containers for my pantry? Which ones would you chose and why? 


And I'm totally eyeing these DALFRED bar
stools for our kitchen peninsula, after we finish remodeling.... I originally wanted metal with wood seat bar stools, but so far haven't found any at a reasonable price yet.


My dream kitchen faucet for the kitchen remodel but it's out of stock at our IKEA store


This brick wall paper looks so authentic.... I'd like to cover the wall behind our bed in it....


I love the RIMFORSA series.... the containers, holders, baskets, rails, cutting board, tablet holder, etc.... I want them all!


The TÄRNABY table lamp, in anthracite black looks enchanting to me...


I Love the lightness of the OFELIA Throw.... it looks perfect for spring and summer.


I am also wanting a new set of dishes and I'm looking at both the ARV and the VARDAGEN dark gray dish sets... I just don't know how good they will hold up, as I'm used to using my corelle.


A few other items I have my eye on are the SNIDAD basket, the SANDARED pouffe, a cow hide rug, and the TUVALIE and JOANNE throws.

Just writing about all the things I want, makes me want to go do some IKEA shopping! Wonder what I'd have to do to get free product to test?!?!

So, tell me... what Ikea products are your favorite? What would you never live without? What are you still wanting to purchase?

Friday, July 12, 2019

Simplicity



"Whenever you want to add to your life.... take away something instead. You'll find that the more you take away, the more you have. And even better, you'll find yourself buried down there at the bottom somewhere."
- Rhoda A Kindred


Monday, July 1, 2019

Making Your Closet Better

Today, we are talking about closets....

Never underestimate the difference that a little change can make.

I have always used plastic coated wire hangers in my closet, but over the years, I had just about every color and style and flimsy ones they make. Hubby on the other hand always used plain old wire hangers with some wood ones and yarn wrapped ones, that his great grandma made.

They just looked bad. I hated hanging up clothes and I hated looking at them even more. So, I purchased brand new plastic wire coated heavy duty hangers in white for our closets and it's amazing how much of a difference it makes! 

Left - after white hangers and hung by type and color
Right - before uniform hangers (hung by type, but NOT color)

Another way to brighten the closet is to change out incandescent light bulbs for some bright white LEDs and to throw a fresh coat of paint on it. We just painted our shelves white (they were just an ugly stained wood) and that made a big difference.

Use baskets, crates or boxes to store stuff. Hubby's closet used to have small boxes and little things, magazines, bullets, etc. everywhere... it just always looked cluttered, no matter how many times I tried to organize it. So, I got some wooden crates for him to keep all the little things in and it helped make it look cleaner instantly. I use baskets in mine.

Buy a good shoe organizer/ shoe rack. I used to have a cardboard box with dividers built into it that my ex husband brought home from a job site. That thing was great and it held my shoes for over 15+ years, but it finally was starting to break down, so I bought new racks for both hubby and my closets, and I really like them!

Hang clothes by color and type. I like having all my jackets, sweaters, cardigans and vests together, my sleeveless shirts together and my dresses, and skirts together, but the rest of my shirts are hung by color. 

Hanging clothes by color instantly makes your closet look like a store showcase. Try it!

Left - narrowed down color palette
Right - random color palette 

Another good thing about hanging clothes by color is that you can see what your true color palette is. I'm still working on narrowing down my color palette, I like all the colors and random designs, and styles, but someday I'd like to have a more minimalist capsule wardrobe.

Knowing what type of clothing  looks better on you and having your own style is also great to helping make your closet look and function at best!

*Please Note. Hubby and I keep clothes for all 4 seasons in our closet at all times. Here in Indiana, there's always a chance that you'll experience all four seasons in 24 hrs.
And while we are reducing clutter, minimizing our life, and trying to find and own our own style, we are still a work in progress!

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Wednesday, June 26, 2019

Cancer, Funeral Planing and Reflections

I have cancer. Its non curable
 It's slow growing. But its cancer.


Hubby and I finally finished finalizing our will. Complete with funeral arrangements. If that doesn't sober you up, I'm not sure what will. It's been something we've been trying to finalize for years, but never got it done until now. (No, your not getting anything, and don't bother contesting it, cause we put in a no contest clause.)

To make a long story short, I don't want a viewing with an open casket with people filing by to look at my dead cold body, or a traditional funeral. And I want something odd on my tombstone. Something quirky, but out there, just like me. Something that make people stop and laugh and say I can't believe they put 'that' on a headstone!

But anyway, back to this post....
Most of the people I know who have died, have died from cancer. Not all, but a very high percentage.

Today, Beth Chapman died. I've been reading all the good things people have tweeted about her and the words are great.... I mean she was a cool person. Big boobs, handcuffs and perfect nails.... someone who not only turned her life around, but changed the lives of many. What's not to love about that?!?!?!

But here's the thing. Why do we wait until someone is gone to tell them how much we love them, how we liked working with them, or what we liked about them. I'm sure its comforting to the family, but why wait?

I don't want you to come to my memorial and say what you liked about me. Tell it too me while I'm around to hear it. And if you don't like me. That's ok, don't pretend that you do. Tell the truth so we can both go our separate ways.

So while I live with cancer... for me, the hardest days are when someone I know has lost the cancer battle, for I know that I am standing in that line somewhere.... 

... please don't wait until I'm gone to tell me that you love me. It may just be too late.

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