Vertical Marriage Book Review

"He never saw it coming. It was the night of Dave and Ann’s tenth wedding anniversary and if asked how their marriage was doing, Dave would have said a 9.8 out of 10 and he even guaranteed Ann would say the same. But instead of giving a celebratory kiss, Ann whispered, “I’ve lost my feelings for you.” Divorce seemed inevitable. But starting that night, God began to reveal to Dave and Ann the most overlooked secret of getting the marriage we are looking for: the horizontal marriage relationship just doesn’t work until the vertical relationship with Christ is first."

This book was a fun and a good read in more ways than one... couples often think of marriage as husband and wife. But a great marriage only works if it's vertical - husband, wife and God!

The book was divided into four parts... Going Vertical, Conflict and Communication, Intimacy (which was my favorite), and Living Vertical. 

I have always found it odd that many Christians think that it's wrong to talk about sex. But here's the thing - "the Song of Solomon is literally an R-rated read". I love how Dave and Ann state: "Only God could create an act so pleasurable that when you do it, you sometimes yell his name out loud!" God designed sex to be a wonderful thing and we shouldn't be afraid to talk about it! A great marriage is full of great sex... it's what brings us together, what makes us vulnerable, and what lets us connect on a deeper, emotional, spiritual, and physical level! I don't have sex in front of my kids, but our kids know that mom and dad have sex, that it is fun, and that we can get a little loud... we don't keep it a 'dirty' little secret. We want them to grow up knowing that a great sex life is also a part of a great marriage.....

I also liked and could completely relate to Ann's approach to how husbands and wives approach things differently - like a bag of luggage. The husband only picks up one bag of luggage at a time. He is fully committed to that bag and when he is done with it, he moves on to pick up the next bag. But a wife.... a wife picks up and carries all the bags of luggage at the same time.... sometimes, we as woman, just need to set a few bags down..... and sometimes our hubby's need to pick up a few more bags.... but mostly we need to understand and appreciate our differences... and when we do that, we can have a great marriage!

I am blessed to have a great marriage... to have a husband that loves and respects me everyday. Someone who tries to make my life easier, someone who will hold me, and put my needs (and wants) above his own. 

 Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.